How do I talk to my child if I am worried?

Seeing someone struggle can be difficult. You may have noticed behavioural changes which worry you and you feel the need to talk to your child.

01: Go somewhere your young person feels most comfortable this could be in the garden, kitchen, bedroom or out of the house.

02: Tell them what you’ve noticed and share your thoughts. “I’ve noticed you’ve been spending more time in your bedroom than usual; I want to check you’re ok and to remind you that I am here, and I am always here to listen”.

03: Your child may not be ready to talk to you, but it’s important that you show you have noticed their behaviour changes and that they can talk to you. This may be via text,  a drawing or writing it down when they are ready.

04: When they are ready to talk, listen to them: be quiet and let them speak. Silence is ok. Pause, take time to reflect and really listen to what they are saying.

05: Try to validate their experience. You could say, “Ok, what do you think would help?”, or “That sounds really difficult for you. What can we do next?”.

How do I consent for my young person?

You will be asked on the referral form whether your young person is aware of the referral, it is important to talk to your young person if you are concerned before making a referral. Or you could include them in making their own young person referral. Remind the young person that this is a supportive action, and you want to help them feel better. But be reminded, if your young person does not want to engage in the service, they cannot be forced.